Expressing Yourself - you are only getting older, there isn't much more time left. Get on with it!

So here I am, 45 years old.  And what moves me to tears is people expressing themselves.  Real authentic from the gut expression.

I have assisted many people to open the gates, so to speak.  And I have had assistance opening my own.

I was in a course a few years ago and I hadn't been able to express sadness.  Other people could get sad but it just seemed wimpy to me.  Lucky for me I had 2 coaches in my program who were being with me in the mirror, coaching me to acknowledge myself for all I have experienced and there it was . . . the flood gate opened and I cried like a klingon warrior.  And the sense of relief was beyond words.

That is what I want for all people.  To have whatever is inside of you, that you think you shouldn't say, or you are afraid to express.  To let it all out.  Speak your mind.  Now, this isn't giving people permission to "verbally puke" on each other.  That isn't what I am getting at.

Somewhere in your past you may have had an experience that had you make a decision.  And that decision has altered your life.  Here is an awesome video to watch about how this old decision affected this man.

Breaking Free from an old decision

And the part of this film I like the best is that part at the end where he is sharing with over 5,000 people what he did and that it is possible for others.  It is possible for you.

Thanksgiving - is change really all that bad?

Today I am present to loss.  Too much of it.  And really I am not the only one who has ever lost anyone, yet at times, I feel like I am the only one who feels this way.  

It is like a two sided coin.  I never have one feeling that I don’t also have the opposite feeling along with it.

My family is shrinking.  My brother, husband and Dad all passed away long before I was ready.  Is one every ready?

And I have an every increasing family.  I guess I could ask myself the question is this bad or good?  Do I like it the way it is or not?  And if I do like it does that diminish the value of the relationships I once had?

I am thankful for my Mum’s neighbours and their friendly horses that we got to visit on this lovely sunny day.  And the chickens that my son and his wife have up the hill.  I really love just being with the animals.  I am thankful for my family and friends.  Each one a special gift to me.  And as this is the year I have declared for reconnection.  I will share the gifts that my friends have given me with each one of them. 

It is not something that comes naturally to me.  So this should prove interesting.  

Happy Thanksgiving everyone.  

October 8th, 2012

Manifestlife and Begin With Cleansing . . .

When I was only 14 days into my 30 day cleanse I had already lost 8 pds already. This is by far the most pleasant and easy to take cleanse I have ever used. Yummy Shakes, Delicious drinks. I never was hungry. On the contrary, it seemed like everytime I turned around I was taking another drink or having another snack. Very fun.

Check it out for yourself at my Manifestlife with Cleansing website.

Have any of you ever thought that your life was going in a particular direction. That you knew what was best for yourself. But it just wasn’t happening. And when you finally gave up that goal a whole new world became available to you?

Well that is exactly what is happening to me. At present I am a full time Foster Mum, and a Mother to my own children and a Gramma to 2 beautiful grandbabies. I love being a Mum.

I was just coasting along. Busy with babies. Not really seeing any openings of time in my future. And then one evening . . .

I got to assist my friend Deb at her presentation Journey to Balance and was doing a demonstration of Matrix Energetics. I don’t get many opportunities to practice this work as I am busy with the little ones. And this was a treat. At Deb's presentation she was focusing on the human body's ability to heal itself. She had lined up a few experts for us to learn from.

We got to experience Nia, a form of dance that is transformative in nature, and what a great thing that was - just what I needed to make my energy flow. And then it was my turn to practice and demonstrate what Matrix Energetics can do. We don’t label it in terms of "what it is" because in the labelling or explanation of it there are limits.

Matrix Energetics, I believe, is limitless. And I am frequently questioning reality. And while working on this woman, who was trained in Reiki, she was gracious enough to accept a new reality. What that looked like from your chair was a woman who appeared to loose her footing and collapse onto the floor. 

At the event a woman won the attendance prize of a coaching session with me.  And after seeing the Matrix Demonstration she requested a Matrix Session instead.  I said, how about we wait until after I go to my next workshop and I can do all three for you.  

If you have ever experienced this work it is amazing. 

At a Quantum Touch course in August I, with my good friend Justine, got to learn another point of view in the vibrational healing arena. To expand my vision I believe in never thinking that I "have it" or that I "know" anything.  I am always looking for what else may be possible.  With Quantum Touch there is a lot of focus or using the breath, having an intention and knowing that our Love is Powerful and has an Impact.  

After the weekend course, I had 2 sessions with my Mum 3 days apart.  After the first session she noticed a reduction of pain in her chest.  From a 8 (out of 10) down to almost not there.  And her breathing improved a little.  The second session was just yesterday and I will update you in another 2 days.

Until the next update.
Be well

Finally feels like things are coming together.

I am stretching myself.  I am taking a Coaching Course to update my skills as well as have something that people can understand what it is.  You see I have taken Courses with Landmark Education for years.  And I believe it is top notch education.  And there are no diplomas or certificates with any of the programs.  So therefore here I am once again, having learned a valuable skill and not having anything "tangible" to show for it.

I saw Tony Robbins in a video, marketing his new Coaches training with Cloe Madanes, and I was impressed with his promotional videos.  And now that I am taking the course, I find myself needing tissues to watch all of them.  They are the longer versions of the promo videos.  What I am moved by is the amazing possibility of people to get over their issues and repair their relationships.  It is something that I have seen in Landmark Courses also.  But not something I see in typical situations in life very often.  

I am also putting myself out there on the internet.  Taking a course on Information Marketing and sharing what I know and what I have experienced with more people than I could ever reach in person. 

Both of these things have caused me to really stretch myself.  I am beyond just being comfortable.  I feel like I am on the edge.  And the best coaching (I should have given myself) is to really get related to what is so.  

In my finances, I want to invest in this great new company.  It is a clothing product for men.  So I can't really appreciate it personally.  Although all the men in my house are wearing them and loving them so I want to invest as much as I can. 

Problem was that I was not sure about my financial situation.  And when I am unsure I am unable to act. Well I guess I could act but that would only cause me more anxiety.  So I am in the process of getting really clear about where the money goes.  When it comes in and how it is all working.  So far I have a handle on all the bills that come in.  The Mortgage, Hydro, Cable, Water, now what there is to do is get really clear on the day to day spending.  

Here is a challenge for my readers.  If you choose to take it on, 

Write down all your bills and when they are due.  If you want you could even put them in a spreadsheet and track them.  

And on a large piece of cardboard or in your spreadsheet, you could put all and yes I mean ALL of your day to day spending in there too.  You will see what things you could cut down on.  And what you really like to have and need higher income to be able to continue to do comfortably.  

Do this for the whole month and let see if your purchasing behaviour changes at all.

Dar Archibald

I love what this woman talks about. Here she is talking about Leadership and Capabilities. Check it out.

Customer Satisfaction is what really tells you where a business is going.
If this video doesn't play well for you go directly to the source.

http://ecorner.stanford.edu/authorMaterialInfo.html?mid=1719

There are 5 other videos that are all worth watching on that Stanford University page.



How do you show up as a Leader in your own life?

Check out my new post at my other blog

http://www.mylawofattractioncoaching.com/

Or read it here.

I am feeling philosophical today. At least I think that is what it is.

JUN14

Posted by admin in Life

Over on Linked-In there was a question possed -

There is nothing either good or bad, but only thinking makes it so.

by Darlene Hunter Archibald on Monday, 13 June 2011 at 21:25

Where does knowing something instinctively end and programming begin?

Who determines RIGHT & WRONG?

And here is my point of view on this.  Share yours below.

What I see about this is that the conversation is a Discourse. The Discourse of Is It Right or Wrong? This conversation has been around for centuries. And has gotten more specific over time. We don’t have these thoughts. These thoughts were already here before we were born and we put them on, like a shirt. And no one thought to see if they liked it. Or if they agreed with it. They just accepted it as the truth.

But if you actually take a look at what we believe is right or wrong. You may find there are many things that you don’t agree with at all.

So here is an invitation. To take a look at what you believe. And then look at WHY you believe it.

It reminds me of the story of the woman who always cut the end of the ham off. She grew up seeing her mother do it. So she asked her mother and her mother said, “I don’t know why I cut the end off of the ham. Your Gramma did it.”

So they went and asked Gramma and she said, “My pan was too small so I always had to cut the end off to make it fit.”

So where in life are you “cutting the end off” without knowing why?

My Dad passed away . . . Life is very different now.

It is just sinking in.  No more lunches.  No more going to Costco or Walmart.  No more cuddles.
No more words of wisdom.  No more greatest fan for me.
Now lots of people talk about life after death.  And if it is possible I am very happy for Dad. Because his brother was waiting for him and so was his son.  My first husband was also there.
Here is an interesting and probably totally random bit of information.  I was 21 when my brother died.  I was 32 when my first husband died.  And I am now 43 and my dad died.  Interesting.  I wonder what will happen when I am 54?  Thank goodness I have 11 years to find out.
People call and ask, "What can we do for you?"
The only answer I have is, "I don't know."  You could take all the pain away.  You could erase all my memories so I don't have anything to miss.  You could do my housework and pay all my bills.  You could come and give me a hug.  You could tell me a story about something that you knew about my Dad.
There is no funeral.  No Memorial.  Dad was known by so many people.  And I would love to meet them all.  Just not all in one place.
I find that other people that are incomplete about deaths of their own family members are sometimes the hardest to talk to.  It almost seems like they need support and compassion and I am not really up to that.
Now, I do love to help.  When I am getting down about anything I pray for a call.  And sure enough, someone always calls.  For some support or coaching.  I love the opportunity to provide service. I think if anyone can do it, it is a really good way to get yourself out of your head and be in another person's world for a little while.
A friend of mine shared this on Facebook.  I don't know who wrote it.  But it is pretty timely as that is how I am feeling today.  Like I have held something for much too long and not it is time to Put It Down.
Enjoy,
Dar

A young lady confidently walked around the room while leading and
explaining stress management to an audience; with a raised glass of water,
and everyone knew she was going to ask the ultimate question, 'half empty or
half full?'..... She fooled them all... "How heavy is this glass of water?"
she inquired with a smile.
Answers called out ranged from 8 oz. to 20 oz.
She replied, "The absolute weight doesn't matter. It depends on how long I
hold it. If I hold it for a minute, that's not a problem. If I hold it for
an hour, I'll have an ache in my right arm. If I hold it for a day, you'll
have to call an ambulance. In each case it's the same weight, but the longer
I hold it, the heavier it becomes." She continued, "and that's the way it is
with stress. If we carry our burdens all the time, sooner or later, as the
burden becomes increasingly heavy, we won't be able to carry on."
"As with the glass of water, you have to put it down for a while and rest
before holding it again. When we're refreshed, we can carry on with the
burden - holding stress longer and better each time practiced. So, as early
in the evening as you can, put all your burdens down. Don't carry them
through the evening and into the night... pick them up tomorrow.
Whatever burdens you're carrying now, let them down for a moment. Relax;
pick them up later after you've rested. Life is short. Enjoy it and the now
'supposed' stress that you've conquered!"
Until next time,
Dar Archibald