Finally feels like things are coming together.

I am stretching myself.  I am taking a Coaching Course to update my skills as well as have something that people can understand what it is.  You see I have taken Courses with Landmark Education for years.  And I believe it is top notch education.  And there are no diplomas or certificates with any of the programs.  So therefore here I am once again, having learned a valuable skill and not having anything "tangible" to show for it.

I saw Tony Robbins in a video, marketing his new Coaches training with Cloe Madanes, and I was impressed with his promotional videos.  And now that I am taking the course, I find myself needing tissues to watch all of them.  They are the longer versions of the promo videos.  What I am moved by is the amazing possibility of people to get over their issues and repair their relationships.  It is something that I have seen in Landmark Courses also.  But not something I see in typical situations in life very often.  

I am also putting myself out there on the internet.  Taking a course on Information Marketing and sharing what I know and what I have experienced with more people than I could ever reach in person. 

Both of these things have caused me to really stretch myself.  I am beyond just being comfortable.  I feel like I am on the edge.  And the best coaching (I should have given myself) is to really get related to what is so.  

In my finances, I want to invest in this great new company.  It is a clothing product for men.  So I can't really appreciate it personally.  Although all the men in my house are wearing them and loving them so I want to invest as much as I can. 

Problem was that I was not sure about my financial situation.  And when I am unsure I am unable to act. Well I guess I could act but that would only cause me more anxiety.  So I am in the process of getting really clear about where the money goes.  When it comes in and how it is all working.  So far I have a handle on all the bills that come in.  The Mortgage, Hydro, Cable, Water, now what there is to do is get really clear on the day to day spending.  

Here is a challenge for my readers.  If you choose to take it on, 

Write down all your bills and when they are due.  If you want you could even put them in a spreadsheet and track them.  

And on a large piece of cardboard or in your spreadsheet, you could put all and yes I mean ALL of your day to day spending in there too.  You will see what things you could cut down on.  And what you really like to have and need higher income to be able to continue to do comfortably.  

Do this for the whole month and let see if your purchasing behaviour changes at all.

Dar Archibald

I love what this woman talks about. Here she is talking about Leadership and Capabilities. Check it out.

Customer Satisfaction is what really tells you where a business is going.
If this video doesn't play well for you go directly to the source.

http://ecorner.stanford.edu/authorMaterialInfo.html?mid=1719

There are 5 other videos that are all worth watching on that Stanford University page.



How do you show up as a Leader in your own life?

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I am feeling philosophical today. At least I think that is what it is.

JUN14

Posted by admin in Life

Over on Linked-In there was a question possed -

There is nothing either good or bad, but only thinking makes it so.

by Darlene Hunter Archibald on Monday, 13 June 2011 at 21:25

Where does knowing something instinctively end and programming begin?

Who determines RIGHT & WRONG?

And here is my point of view on this.  Share yours below.

What I see about this is that the conversation is a Discourse. The Discourse of Is It Right or Wrong? This conversation has been around for centuries. And has gotten more specific over time. We don’t have these thoughts. These thoughts were already here before we were born and we put them on, like a shirt. And no one thought to see if they liked it. Or if they agreed with it. They just accepted it as the truth.

But if you actually take a look at what we believe is right or wrong. You may find there are many things that you don’t agree with at all.

So here is an invitation. To take a look at what you believe. And then look at WHY you believe it.

It reminds me of the story of the woman who always cut the end of the ham off. She grew up seeing her mother do it. So she asked her mother and her mother said, “I don’t know why I cut the end off of the ham. Your Gramma did it.”

So they went and asked Gramma and she said, “My pan was too small so I always had to cut the end off to make it fit.”

So where in life are you “cutting the end off” without knowing why?

My Dad passed away . . . Life is very different now.

It is just sinking in.  No more lunches.  No more going to Costco or Walmart.  No more cuddles.
No more words of wisdom.  No more greatest fan for me.
Now lots of people talk about life after death.  And if it is possible I am very happy for Dad. Because his brother was waiting for him and so was his son.  My first husband was also there.
Here is an interesting and probably totally random bit of information.  I was 21 when my brother died.  I was 32 when my first husband died.  And I am now 43 and my dad died.  Interesting.  I wonder what will happen when I am 54?  Thank goodness I have 11 years to find out.
People call and ask, "What can we do for you?"
The only answer I have is, "I don't know."  You could take all the pain away.  You could erase all my memories so I don't have anything to miss.  You could do my housework and pay all my bills.  You could come and give me a hug.  You could tell me a story about something that you knew about my Dad.
There is no funeral.  No Memorial.  Dad was known by so many people.  And I would love to meet them all.  Just not all in one place.
I find that other people that are incomplete about deaths of their own family members are sometimes the hardest to talk to.  It almost seems like they need support and compassion and I am not really up to that.
Now, I do love to help.  When I am getting down about anything I pray for a call.  And sure enough, someone always calls.  For some support or coaching.  I love the opportunity to provide service. I think if anyone can do it, it is a really good way to get yourself out of your head and be in another person's world for a little while.
A friend of mine shared this on Facebook.  I don't know who wrote it.  But it is pretty timely as that is how I am feeling today.  Like I have held something for much too long and not it is time to Put It Down.
Enjoy,
Dar

A young lady confidently walked around the room while leading and
explaining stress management to an audience; with a raised glass of water,
and everyone knew she was going to ask the ultimate question, 'half empty or
half full?'..... She fooled them all... "How heavy is this glass of water?"
she inquired with a smile.
Answers called out ranged from 8 oz. to 20 oz.
She replied, "The absolute weight doesn't matter. It depends on how long I
hold it. If I hold it for a minute, that's not a problem. If I hold it for
an hour, I'll have an ache in my right arm. If I hold it for a day, you'll
have to call an ambulance. In each case it's the same weight, but the longer
I hold it, the heavier it becomes." She continued, "and that's the way it is
with stress. If we carry our burdens all the time, sooner or later, as the
burden becomes increasingly heavy, we won't be able to carry on."
"As with the glass of water, you have to put it down for a while and rest
before holding it again. When we're refreshed, we can carry on with the
burden - holding stress longer and better each time practiced. So, as early
in the evening as you can, put all your burdens down. Don't carry them
through the evening and into the night... pick them up tomorrow.
Whatever burdens you're carrying now, let them down for a moment. Relax;
pick them up later after you've rested. Life is short. Enjoy it and the now
'supposed' stress that you've conquered!"
Until next time,
Dar Archibald

Check out my new webpage and let me know what you think.

I have been thinking about doing business online for many years and just didn't know how.  Then I signed up for the Info Renegades course and got studying.  And while I was doing my research and having conversations with my "Customer Parade" I found a fellow who I was initially kind of rude to.  And then when I was reading his stuff I found so many typos ( I am a proofreader) that I had to tell him about them.   And we struck up a friendship and he offered to let me have his 5 Step Internet Blueprint and I looked it over for typos.  There were many.  And after many conversations about it. I decided to use it myself and see what I could do with it.

So what has come out of my using the 5 Step Internet Blueprint is my new website.  The URL is http://www.mylawofattractioncoaching.com

Take a look and let me know what you think.  I am trying a new theme on it. And learning how to embed videos too.  It's all such fun.

If you want to learn how to take your business online too I have a gift for you.  Your own 5 Step Internet Blueprint can be yours by going here.

I wish you the best of luck in your journey.

Expect the Best!

Dar

Have you Ever been rejected or feared being told NO?

I am thinking about my fear of asking for things.  And my hesitation to ask for things.  Here is an example of how ingrained this thought that I have that I "shouldn't" ask.

One day many years ago, I was having a La Leche League meeting in my home.  For those of you that don't know what that is it is a breastfeeding support group.

I was a young Mum probably 20 years old at the time.  And I had a bunch of Mum's and their babies and children in my home.  I was on a limited budget and I had one banana on my counter that I was "saving" for later.

One of the Mum's just walked up to my banana.  Talked to her child and said something like, "Do you want a banana?"  And proceeded to take my banana and give it to her child.

Now, to some people this wouldn't be a big deal.  But to me it was the utmost in breaking a rule.  The rule that I had that you daren't ask for anything and you for sure never just take anything from anyones home.  Even if you are starving.

So over the years I have gotten braver and have asked for things when I needed them.  But that fear of being told no is always looming in the background.

How could she just take my banana?  Do other people just do that?  Was she totally unaware of my financial situation?

Seeing this from my 43 year old perspective is interesting.  I now wonder why I had that rule. And this person obviously didn't have it.

What makes these rules so ingrained in our lives that we don't notice them until they are broken?

What rules have you noticed that you MUST keep?

Do  you have any rules like that?

Dar
May 2011

My thought of the week, April 15, 2011

My Dad is getting older.  And thinner and not eating as much as we think he should. Although he scoffed down almost a whole bag of Sour Cream and Onion chips.

And as time goes on I think about all the things we know.  "We" the people that have been here a little over 40 years and longer.
So much knowledge, and thank goodness a lot of it has been shared.  And there is just so much of it that hasn't been shared.  So much expertise that hasn't been shared. And some of the people who knew how to do things have since passed away.
Ah wouldn't it be great if we could share our information with each other.

Oh, another thought.  I am noticing that there is an expansion of knowledge.  It seems as though people, some anyway, no longer think that they need to hoard their knowledge.  Like the days of old when only the Monks knew about religion.  Now there is Open Source!  What a wonderful concept.

Wikipedia is a perfect example of awesome collaboration.

I am looking forward to a new education where collaboration is the Context of all learning.

It just makes sense.

We don't expect people to all be in the same position in life.  Why do we expect them to know the exact same stuff at school.  Some people are better at some subjects.  Let them be.  And have people learn about what interests them.

So do we need a Waldorf School in Victoria?  That would be pretty cool.  Although with the way technology is going there may be a different off-shoot of that form of learning that would be even better.

Who is up for transforming the Education System?

When life goes the way you just didn't expect it . . .

You can actually roll with it.  Imagine, not resisting whatever is happening.

I have had a few days of playing this game now.  And it takes all the suffering out of life.  Which is OK accept I used to like to suffer a bit.  Then I could complain to my friends or family and get some nice sympathy.  But no, not anymore.

Now I just have to ask for what I want.  "A hug please"  I don't need to get a migraine to get a bit of a rest.  Just say, "I need someone to help me with this so I can get some rest."

I never knew I wasn't doing this. Asking for what I wanted or needed.  But there you go.

After many years of self reflection, I know my old ways of being are always available to me.  But I don't NEED to use them to get what I want anymore.

Thank goodness for that.

Thats my thought for the day.

And my question to you is - What is it that YOU do to get what you want that you can give up today?
Do you even know what it is?

FIND YOUR VOICE

ASK FOR WHAT YOU WANT

I am a Gramma!!

What a wonderful feeling. He is finally here. We didn't know whether he was a boy or a girl. I guessed a boy but I had a 50-50 chance of being right.

Kalel Maxamillion Gilbert born 8:15am on December 11, 2010

To amazing parents. Justin Allan T Scott Gilbert and Cynthia Nicole Montgomery.

Reading Brendon Burchard's new book.

I highly recommend!!!

I have read more than half and the fun thing about it is that it got me excited.  I saw how people made money online like never before.  And they make a lot of money.  Not only that but I saw that I could do it too.  Chapter 5 is helpful for anyone trying to define their Niche.  I answered the questions and manifested what I was looking for the very next morning.

His story is similar to mine. He was in a serious accident and so was I. He had a wake up experience and so did I. So, although we do not know each other personally I found reading his book was a great way to get to know the human being, that is Brendon Burchard and I found him to be genuine and generous all at the same time.

And he tells you how you can be just like him (successful and prosperous) using your own story.

See for yourself. You will be glad you did.

Trying to make decisions - one of those things we often avoid

So I am off to the races. Witteling down my niche. Am I a Customer Service Specialist, a Proof Reader, a Life Coach, a Relationship Coach, a Parenting Coach, a Financial Coach?

I had a conversation with my friend Julie last night and she has taught a system called MindTime

In a nutshell she said there are 3 kinds of thinkers. This is enough for the purpose of their program.

There are the Past Thinkers, the ones who research and are looking for the truth, the Present Thinkers, the ones who are the people who get stuff done and there are the Future thinkers, the ones who have a lot of great ideas and lack on the implementation. And people can also be a mixture of two or more of them. I know I am a Future Thinker and I can get things done but I prefer to be the one guiding and teaching others to accomplish their goals.

So I was asking my lovely community how do I specifically pin myself down to ONE area? And they made a valid comment. "Who says you have to be just ONE thing?" Well, my coach in a program I am taking, ( Info Renegades ) told me to pick one area.

So what if my area is Guidance, Support and Integrity. That is the area I am working in. And a few days ago I was introduced to Dereck Arreguin and he has a product that is really good. It is called the 5 Step Internet Blueprint. I have his video on my site and to get the Blueprint go to my MoneyMapping Site.

Life Matters: Grandma Kept Her Ice Cream in the Window

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Birthdays, Deaths in the Family and looking at what's next.

Well after writing the whole blog post I realized I had forgotten to add anything that had to do with the title. My husband, Dave and my daughter-in-law, Cynthia both have their birthdays this week. We have had 2 close relatives and a friend from high school die in the last 2 months.

The older I get the more I realize that I can not take one day for granted. And what I really want is to generate enough cash to start a movement. At first I wanted to abolish the monetary system. But then that may take me a while. And I have noticed that if you look under the surface, there already is a system that works without money. There is Freecycle. Where people who have stuff give it away. You don't have to be poor to get things and you don't have to be rich to give things away. What I notice is a degree of faith. That there will be the very thing you need when you need it. This is one of the places where I am present to abundance. What if the whole world worked like that?

There is another place where I notice this faith and a feeling of abundance, gratitude and love. It is with this group I have connected with. Possibly one of the the funnest groups of people on Facebook. It is in the group Social Media Buzz with Video. In that group we support each other. We teach each other. And maybe most importantly we Connect with each other.

I have found a great deal of inspiration and I have seen what the REAL new way of Internet Marketing is doing now. It is laid back, relaxed, personal and truthful. Nothing or not much hidden. Entire lives shared to the advantage of others. I could go on for hours about the group. Not to mention the fun at making the longest thread of replies to a post really late at night.

I have begun my Introduction Video and got stopped at the editing part. I have to find someone who can teach me. I am much better at seeing things in video to learn it. I see my perfectionism rearing its ugly head. This time it will not stop me. I will let myself look as silly as needed to get through sharing a video with my friends in my group.

The other things I am doing is investigating ways to make money.

Originally, before the house was renovated. I invented the possibility of my passions paying for the renovation. Well, it hasn't happened yet. But truthfully, I forgot to look at what I was passionate about until I started taking the Info Renagades Course shortly before Christmas. First thing to do for that course was to look at my Passions, Genius and Commitment.

After much self reflection I am fine tuning things. I love Coaching. I have done if for free for years. I did it in a program that ranked #1 in the world for registrations and guests. And I can see myself doing it for my entire life. What I have chosen so far is
Questioning Reality - Late Night Thought Coach
in the self development Niche. I like to help people who are struggling with themselves. People that want coaching to break through the barriers to success. To look at life from a paradigm they have not considered before.

So after choosing my Niche. I saw that I needed a way to Promote myself. To let people know who I am and what I am doing. A website. A beautiful platform with web mastering as easy as typing in a blog.

I found it in 2008. I played with it for a year. I created 5 web pages. And never told anyone about them. Until now.

My MoneyMappy Page is made with Profitmatic.
As the Chinese symbol for Luck is Opportunity and Preparation, I have the preparation done. And now the opportunity is here. Profitmatic is so fun to use. And has all the bells and whistles. I easily updated my site and found that they have added many features to it.

Learning to love your Jiggly Bitts was a really fun class.

Today I got to spend 7 hours with a great group of women learning about the history of Burlesque. And Learning some tips on movement and makeup. I am wearing false eyelashes as I type. A total first for me.

I so enjoyed the day and found myself feeling more at home than I expected during our one minute show at the end of class. I never would have thought I would be as comfortable in front of people as I am with myself looking in the mirror.

I am sure I have Landmark Education to thank for that.
That said, I look forward to the next class where I will learn a little more. I have lots of things to investigate and check out. And I guess I should go and see the Burlesque movie now. And the next thing is to hire a personal trainer. I need to get my jiggly bitts to be a bit stronger. So I can stand and dance in those high heel shoes.

Dar
2011

New Year, is it really a new start?

It is a good idea to get on the wave. Sometimes. When everyone is thinking about what they would like to do differently this year.

This year I am choosing the Pay If Forward theme. I love that movie and I especially like it when Eugene surrenders to his own needs and desires and doesn't let his fear of getting hurt stop him anymore.

I have a new grandson. I don't know what his presence is going to ignite in me. Something I am sure. I am amazed at how big he grows and he is just 19 days old now.

I want a future that our kids are proud to be alive in. Facebook is changing the world. And so is Walmart. Cell phones. DVD movies. Online streaming movies. Technology is moving at such a rate is it worth buying any movies anymore . . . really.
Won't Blu-ray be a thing of the past and we will move onto something else?

One thing I am finally getting is that keeping things not only clutters up my life, but it is almost totally unneeded. I can share via Freecycle anything I no longer need. And when I need them, things will probably show up on Freecycle or somewhere else or I can buy it with the money I saved not paying for storage to keep the original item.

It has only taken me 43 years to figure this out.

Those are the things I am thinking today. 1/1/11 is over already. And we head forward into the unknown.

What will you create this year?